Be Who You Were Born To Be!

Be Who You Were Born To Be!

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Be Who You Were Born To Be!

We come into life with a double standard.  Our lower leg represents this standard, the lower leg has two bones, and it holds you up in life.  One standard is what the world will want you to be.  The other standard is what you came here to be.  And you spend much of your life negotiating that standard.  “Do I become what the world wants me to become, or do I become what I was sent here to become?”  And if you become who you were sent here to be, you don’t become it at all, you just be it.”

But you have to accommodate the world to a  point because it’s a social enterprise, and there are people in your life that you need to take into consideration.  How much do you accommodate others, and in that accommodation how graceful are you?  The more graceful you are in your daily life will make your life, and your relationships go much smoother.  In a state of grace you can be who you were meant to be and still accommodate the world to a point.

So consistently you must balance this.  Those who don’t balance this, for the most part, are either one of two extremes, Brut or Slave.

Brut consciousness is very successful at times, very disliked most of the time.  For instance, you may know of a very successful person that is very disliked.  A Brut brings their standard, but ignores all other standards.    The other extreme is called slave.  You are consistently viewing who you are communicating with, to determine their approval of you.  You never want to get into a place where you have to actively seek approval from others.   Never get into a place where you have to prove yourself.  “We are not here to prove ourselves, we are here to improve ourselves.”

This is such a valuable lesson to remember every day.  In my own life I try to be conscious of how I am being.  Am I being how everyone else wants me to be, or am I being true to myself.  I know from experience, trying to gain everyones approval will only leave you tired and sad.  There is simply no way to make everyone happy, and we do it at what cost?

But remember, being who you were meant to be takes guts.  It’s much easier to go with the flow, to just fit in to what others want of you.  But that is no life at all, it’s a slave to others expectations.  So be brave, be bold, be honest with yourself, and choose to be you!

Blessings,

Siri Shakti

About Siri Shakti Kaur Ardebili

Siri Shakti was born and raised in Pleasanton California. She now lives in Southern California, with her husband and three young children. She is an author, poet, artist, teacher and life coach.

It is her purpose in life to uplift and encourage women to their highest potential. Truly reclaiming their inner strength so that they may be bountiful, beautiful, and blissful.

Siri Shakti is a committed Yogi, devoting her life to Mastery and the Kundalini Yoga Life style. She is a Homeschooling and attachment parenting advocate.

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  • EvtonB

    Very True words here. I also believe that we can serve others better in life by being what were truly intended to be. This sometimes includes letting down people that have certain expectations of you, but in reality, by following your heart you will be able to exceed their expectations and truly impact the world.

  • Sat  Nam EvtonB,
    Thank you for your comment, and what you added really resonates with me.  Love You!

  • banana51287

    I was wondering if you had any suggestions on how to find that balance within a romantic relationship. I feel like there are so many mixed messages for women in romantic relationships these days. I feel like the basis of it all is fear of being a slave to the relationship so what seems to happen is many women end up being brutes and are not flexible enough in the relationship. In particular I am struggling with finding out what my “authentic” spiritual beliefs are in relationship to a romantic partner. I desire a spiritual path, and seem to fall for men who find spirituality important. However, I have never seen eye to eye with spirituality with anyone I have dated. I am currently intrigued by Kundalini and have fallen for a very nice man who is devoted to Kundalini. I really want to be authentic in this relationship. I am afraid to pursue kundalini because I worry about loosing myself. I worry I am simply doing it to try and please him. Yet at the same time I truly do desire a spiritual path.

    • Anonymous

      I totally understand what you mean…  As women we re bombarded with messages that we have to be the tough, independent woman.  It’s the whole feminist idea, that women need to be equal to men, and we should fight to be the tough bad ass woman.

      I agree that women can and should be the masters of their lives, decide what they want and deserve, and then create it. 

      In my life I’ve met many women who act just as you explained.  I find these women to have a great deal of challenges in their romantic relationships.  Most of these women won’t let their guard down, they feel the need to control, and won’t allow their amazing feminine side take the lead in their relationship. 

      But to make a relationship really work, it takes both the feminine and the masculine, it takes two people really being themselves.  And a deep commitment to one another.

      Women were created differently than men, it’s just that simple.  If God wanted us to be the same, then he would have done so. 

      But one thing can hold the two of you together, and give you total freedom to explore all sides of yourself. This is the power of commitment. Commitment means: We are together forever, no matter what, totally devoted to one another. There is no getting out of the relationship, which take any fear of divorce or break ups out of the picture.

      So, when times get tough, and you don’t like the reflection of your partner, you still stay in the relation (ship). And if you stay on board, then you get through it, and get to experience the real joys of a committed relation(ship).

      This kind of commitment is what gave my husband and I the freedom to be who we both wanted to be. I wear turbans, head wraps, do Kundalini Yoga, pray every morning, visit Amma the divine mother, meditate, chant, etc. And he dresses in his own style, does Kundalini Yoga, and has his own way of showing his connection with his creator.

      No matter how we both decide to show our spiritual connection, it’s all good. Sometimes we are really aligned with what we are doing, and sometimes not so much. It’s the flow of life. But I don’t allow myself to feel like I’m being lost in what he wants. And even if I follow him for a while, so be it, he is my man, he is my sun, and he wants to share what he loves with me.

      I think this is where women get confused. Many women are scared to dive into what their men love, and really prays them for what they do. But men are very sensitive creatures, even more so than women. They wound easy, especially form their woman. Your caliber, your consciousness and your self is sixteen times stronger than all the men. Man has only one hemisphere of the brain. You have both working at the same time. Your intuition is given potentially because you are going to be a moth­er, so all dangers in and out are known to you. You have everything plus, plus, plus.

      And on more thing… Here is a tool you can use.

      When ever you are seeking answers, go to a quiet space. put your hand over your heart and focus attention on your heart. Internally ask your question and let your higher self give you the answer. And when the concern of losing yourself comes up, try to find out where that belief came from. This is not really your essence, and it will benefit you to find the root of this.

      I hope this answer helped you!

      Happy New Year,
      Guru Shakti

  • banana51287

    Did you try to respond? I saw a link as a response, but couldn't open it. Any who, I appreciate your blog. Thanks for writing.

  • Guru Shakti

    I totally understand what you mean…  As women we re bombarded with messages that we have to be the tough, independent woman.  It's the whole feminist idea, that women need to be equal to men, and we should fight to be the tough bad ass woman.

    I agree that women can and should be the masters of their lives, decide what they want and deserve, and then create it. 

    In my life I've met many women who act just as you explained.  I find these women to have a great deal of challenges in their romantic relationships.  Most of these women won't let their guard down, they feel the need to control, and won't allow their amazing feminine side take the lead in their relationship. 

    But to make a relationship really work, it takes both the feminine and the masculine, it takes two people really being themselves.  And a deep commitment to one another.

    Women were created differently than men, it's just that simple.  If God wanted us to be the same, then he would have done so. 

    But one thing can hold the two of you together, and give you total freedom to explore all sides of yourself.  This is the power of commitment.  Commitment means:  We are together forever, no matter what, totally devoted to one another.  There is no getting out of the relationship, which take any fear of divorce or break ups out of the picture.

    So, when times get tough, and you don’t like the reflection of your partner, you still stay in the relation (ship).  And if you stay on board, then you get through it, and get to experience the real joys of a committed relation(ship).

    This kind of commitment is what gave my husband and I the freedom to be who we both wanted to be.  I wear turbans, head wraps, do Kundalini Yoga, pray every  morning, visit Amma the divine mother, meditate, chant, etc.  And he dresses in his own style, does Kundalini Yoga, and has his own way of showing his connection with his creator.  

    No matter how we both decide to show our spiritual connection, it’s all good.  Sometimes we are really aligned with what we are doing, and sometimes not so much.  It’s the flow of life.  But I don’t allow myself to feel like I’m being lost in what he wants.  And even if I follow him for a while, so be it, he is my man, he is my sun, and he wants to share what he loves with me.

    I think this is where women get confused.  Many women are scared to dive into what their men love, and really prays them for what they do.  But men are very sensitive creatures, even more so than women.  They wound easy, especially form their woman.  Your caliber, your consciousness and your self is sixteen times stronger than all the men.  Man has only one hemisphere of the brain. You have both working at the same time. Your intuition is given potentially because you are going to be a moth­er, so all dangers in and out are known to you. You have everything plus, plus, plus.

    And on more thing… Here is a tool you can use.

    When ever you are seeking answers, go to a quiet space.  put your hand over your heart and focus attention on your heart.  Internally ask your question and let your higher self give you the answer.  

    I hope this answer helped you!

    Happy New Year,
    Guru Shakti